How can I help my loved one who is having trouble with decision making?
If a family member is willing to accept your help, your involvement with decision-making may be all that he needs. There are several things you can do:
-Offer to sit down with him every week or two to help him pay bills;
-Ask him to collect all his mail in one place and review it with him;
-Offer to go to medical appointments with him;
-Assist him with contacting an attorney to create advance directives (e.g., power of attorney, appointment of health care representative, advance funeral directive) while he still has the ability to understand;
-Help him get on the “do not call” list by calling 1-888-834-9969;
-Ask him to talk to you before he make any important decisions;
-Treat him with dignity when he ask for help;
-Avoid scolding him for mistakes; and
-Help him to contact the Area Agency on Aging at 1-800-986-3505 to see if he is eligible for any services.
What can I do for a loved one who is not able to ask for help?
If a loved one is unable to manage money or make medical decisions, and cannot ask for your help, you can help her by:
-Applying to become your loved one’s representative payee, if her only income is from Social Security; and
-Serving as a health care representative if you are a qualified relative (spouse, child, sibling, or parent).
When is guardianship or other court action necessary?
Guardianship deprives a person of control over assets, income, and personal decisions. Generally speaking, people do better when they retain as much control over their circumstances as they can safely handle. As a result, guardianship should be a last resort. Even when guardianship is necessary, the guardian should include the person in decision making to the extent possible.
Some examples of individuals who may need a guardian or protective order include:
-The person who has no one who will help her make decisions;
-The person who is at risk of harm because her lack of capacity is causing her to make bad decisions (without a lack of capacity, we all get to make bad decisions that are harmful to us);
-The person who is exploited and who is unable to stop the exploitation due to her lack of capacity; and
-The person who refuses necessary medical help as the result of her lack of capacity.
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